This is an essay on subtext, argument, statistics, and the tragedy of the commons. Why do women argue so much. Why do they use statistics that don’t map to your real life experiences. Why do they care so much and why are there so many sexless men arguing with them over statistical analysis in matters of fuckology?
By the end you’ll understand why you’re arguing with women, what you’re actually arguing over, what you can do to avoid it (online and off) how to become more assertive and to realize that the male protective instinct is like oil, and women have systematically drained it so that they must fight over the last remaining patches.
Guard yours and only give it away when you’re getting value in your life from the other person.
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Of all the essays, books, videos and speeches within the praxeology known as the Red Pill, the three non negotiable works are: No More Mr Nice Guy, The Rational Male, and When I Say No I Feel Guilty. The latter, Manuel Smiths work, contains a key Red Pilled concept, the Assertive bill of rights. There are two of them that are applicable to men who argue online with random chicks and offline with those closest to them. They are:
You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems; and
You have the right to say, ‘I don’t care’.
Male sympathy is a resource like oil. It’s been built into the earth for as long as there have been humans. Some tribes of paleolithic men had instincts towards female protection and male sacrifice. Other tribes did not. Over generations evolution worked its way through the population. Tribes that valued women as rare commodities may have lost men by the thousands, but so long as there were women, they could rebuild. The ones that did not, eventually dwindled. The best tribe in the world only lasts a generation without women.
In other words, male sacrifice was selected for as a survival strategy. How true is this? Do I have statistics or anthropological evidence to back this up? No, and it doesn’t matter. Put that thought on the back burner because it’s the purpose of this post.
Human beings crawled out of our hunter gatherer ties to the balances of nature. We build agriculture and spread across the world. Then we developed the steam engine and that changed everything. We found oil and productivity was separate from labour for the first time in human history. Environmental alarmists warn us of a finite resource (which is true) running out and causing a calamity for humanity (it will) but go wrong when they start bringing up statistics and research showing the world will end in 1975, 1988, 2004, 2012, and 2026.
How many people do you personally know let statistics about peak oil, global warming and apocalypse drive their decisions? How many people do you know who screwed over a nice happy life by believing a hockey stick graph? How much actual work toward sustainability was never done because everyone was focused on the newest grift from the latest 13 year old girl standing in front of the UN?
What Red Pilled lesson there is from watching women trot out statistics, demanding men take action? It’s the lesson. Whisper, a good author on this praxeology had a good essay on the end game of Red Pilled men. The final point is
If you can’t control THE universe, control YOUR universe.
Arguing with women is a fools errand. It doesn’t matter how right or wrong they are, it always, ALWAYS, ends up with you sacrificing something in order to help them do more. Feminism is the industrialized tactic of treating the male protective instinct the same way the Rockefellers treated oil. A natural resource to be exploited for the benefit of all (read: herself) without regard for the moment when the ability to extract the resource outpaces the ability to renew it.
The resource is mans instinct for female protection and sympathy and it’s the newest tragedy of the commons.
Feminism is confusing to men. Feminists tell you that it’s about equality and ignore anything that doesn’t directly impact them. For example, the term rape culture was taken from prison inmates. Due to the prison system allowing it to run rampant in male prisons, inmates were protesting in the 70s for some basic humanity reform. Feminists showed up as the first real ally. You already know how this story goes.
Feminists tell you about the different waves. They want the vote. They wanted to work. They want to dismantle patriarchy and be communists. Apparently there’s a fourth wave of feminism which is being a stay at home mom and baking bread, I’m not entirely sure. It’s sex positive but also sex negative. It’s embracing men having surgery to be women but also protesting men trying to be biological women.
Red Pilled men have come to the same conclusion. Feminism is not an ideology, it’s a tactic. The tactic is to scale up the male protective instinct for maximum female gain. That’s why it can be contradictory and spin on a dime. The problem is, like oil, there isn’t unlimited supply.
I’ve talked with hundreds, thousands of men even about their childhoods, marriages, relationships and sex lives. There are many lessons to learn, but the one that everyone has in common is that they were fucked over by a woman after being too giving of their protective instinct
They lost relationships with their fathers because their divorced moms gaslight them into hating the guy
They lost relationships with their wives because they took their protective instincts seriously and the wives became bored and took advantage
I’m not writing this to evoke pity. I’m writing this to show you what burning the oil fields in Iraq looks like from the perspective of the oil fields. Men are increasingly becoming hardened to female pain. If you don’t believe me, go online and see what the biggest trends are right now. I’ll give you a hint: it’s watching women suffer, usually through their own callus actions.
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I have a semi serious quote: after feminism and the birth control pill, women have had 3 generations to guide men towards a modern masculinity and have failed miserably. It’s catchy, but not really true. Women don’t have an instinct of sacrifice. They aren’t men, nor can they be. Those same tribes sacrificing men to save women also survived because women worked their ass off to get theirs, and throw whomever under the bus they could to get there. When you can’t swing a club for a damn, you best learn how to promise sex to men so they can swing it for you.
Now, that club is the brand of Science™ and the club is statistics. Women know men love logic. Men love the idea of factual objectivity (one set of facts) and so one of the better ways to manipulate us are to baffle us with facts that are incompetently created, incompetently expressed, and maliciously processed into self deluding narratives for female benefit and male sacrifice.
Statistics aren’t advice
Every woman over 30 on Twitter has been showing off the source amnesia version of an OK cupid study from the early 2010s. It took messaging data, response rate, and ignored peoples self declared preferences to come up with two charts: the age range that people preferred, based on their age.
Women tended to want men 2-3 years older than themselves while men wanted chicks from 20-24 years old. That’s it. Every woman who has seen it says the same tired manipulations:
See guys, no woman wants your balding 40 year old ass
Date your age range, look at the data, women clearly don’t want older men
Stop lying to men and telling them they can date 18 year old’s their entire life
It’s not their fault, it’s men’s fault.
I refuse to start playing statistics wars with people. It’s not helpful to you or me. Between statistics telling me that umbrellas cause rain, average people do average things, and otherwise leaving a giant gap of knowledge where the Why belongs.
It’s dueling banjos, but the banjo is manipulation.
Here’s why every statistic about relationships, sex, men and women are garbage. An analogy:
The average American in 2023 earns $53,000 a year. Sorry fellas, that means $100,000 jobs aren’t lining up to hire you. Stop looking at doctors and consultants making that much, and stop shaming companies by talking about it.
I assume you, the reader, work for a living and earn a decent income. Why else would you pay to read me? Do you see how useless this whole statement is from your career perspectives? It’s basically advocating for a caste system. Stay in your lane and earn the average. Now, many of you will be, that’s the definition of average. That’s not how it works though. We all agree there are ways to earn more money, ways to learn skills to have better jobs that pay better and become above average. If not, stop reading we will never see eye to eye.1
Is it that much of a reach to assume the same thing applies to sex? I don’t have to reach, I have a Patreon. Guys swap notes there about what they are doing. Some guys are with their similarly aged wives and work on being happier. Some men got ditched by those women and have to start dating again. Some guys leave frigid wives and figure it out for themselves.
Believe me or don’t, I’ll live either way. Guys find it surprisingly easy to date girls much younger than them. I’m not going to get hyperbolic and tell you 50 year old dudes are swimming in 18 year old poon, but 35-45 dudes are definitely having a blast with 23-27 year old women. You can be the 25 year old hyperbolic incel or the 35 year old doom-and-gloom soccer mom all you want.
There’s certain things men have to change to date younger (read: hotter, more pleasant, not bitchy) which is the whole point of ignoring these bullshit statistics. If you only talk to girls on Tinder (where they cap your search to your age) at work (where people are generally your age) and listen to the women in your life about what to do (want men at the top tier, who are around their age,) they will all say the same thing.
“Date women my age. Ignore the peaks, I have some statistics to show why you should be dating me instead!”
The last time I saw someone trying to convince you to fuck them with statistics was when the dudes who owned sex dolls predicted the end of humanity.
I’m sure you’ve seen the Rational Male SMV chart. It’s meant as a loose example as to why men and women look their best at different ages. Women are valued based on looks, youth, and fertility. Men are valued based on status, value, looks to a lesser degree, maturity etc. That’s as far as you need to take it. You’ll peak later in life, and you have to work for it. Women will peak earlier, and it’s theirs to lose.
More charts and statistics, fucking great. I’ve seen and had this conversation play out, and it always plays out the same way:
“So if one Science™ says women prefer men their age, but another Science™ says men and women peak at different times, what can we do to make better decisions?”
‘Well, we can speculate on the reasons’
“Then why the fuck do I need the statistics if we are just going to guess anyways??
The answer for this may surprise you, but I’m hoping it won’t …
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