Anger

You're not ready for anger, until you are

The Type 2 captains reach a point where they understand the dynamics of their relationship. Their wife has NPD, BPD, or some other egg head diagnosis. They understand that when their wife acts like an unrepentant bitch, all the time, that they don’t have to just take her shit. She may have been crazy, but he was too supplicative to know that. Now he is, and now he knows.

Type 1 captains reach a point where they understand the dynamics of their relationship. Their wife wasn’t crazy, she was frustrated and maybe a little resentful. She acts similar to the unrepentant bitch from above, not because of daddy issues, psychological trauma or any other external reason, but because her sexual strategy has failed. She found a man with potential who failed to live up to it. She may have been crazy, but he was too lazy to know that. Now he is, and now he knows.

Finally Type 3 captains reach a point where they understand the dynamics of their relationship. Their wife may have been better than them on some metric: she was hotter, smarter, more successful in her career, or simply wanted a weaker man that she could dominate in order to stave off her own insecurities thought control. She may have been controlling, but he was too insecure to know that. Now he is, and now he knows.

For all these types of men and all these types of relationships, the dynamic is changing. The big change is understanding that their womans reactions cannot be a measure of their progress. This is why the scoreboard tilts in their favor, they started to play by their own rules.

I had a well adjusted wife who filled the space I created for her of a begrudging head of the household. She cannot be the measure of progress as she is far happier — I am far happier — when I am the dominant male.

I have a neurotic wife who is missing fundamental skills in handling her own neuroticism who took advantage of my innate passivity and need to fix people as a nice guy. She cannot be the measure of progress as I am far happier when I provide her with an exit to her hamster maze of emotions, more like a teenager than of an equal

I have a controlling wife who is too proud to admit her shortcomings. I bought into the idea that I married up and I was also too proud to admit that no one is happy this way. She cannot be the measure of progress as anything I do will be seen through a lens of her insecurities. I am far happier when my Dread is a gradual, pure, raw increase in sexual market value.

What does any of this have to do with anger? Anger is no longer an emotional response to both pain and social attack, it’s not a tool like any other tool. The only difference is you have the frame to handle it.