Case Study: A Basic, Boilerplate, Type-1 Captain

It's boring because all the interesting work is what gets you to this work

The least interesting type of Captain is where ‘the work’ is. Put this case study in context with all the concepts and mental models written in Frame and Dread. And while it looks like self improvement, it isn’t. It’s truly a praxeological approach to a relationship. Enjoy

A Type 1 Captain

I write about this the least. It’s the most common situation that finds the Red Pill. Frankly, it’s the least interesting. It’s the first of three types of dysfunctional relationships. I’ve written about all three in Praxeology, Volume 2: Dread.

They’re based on the captain and first officer model by Athol Kay. The man holds ultimate responsibility. His wife offers her opinion. He generally takes it as advisement. Don’t get too attached to this model. Author

Rollo Tomassi

explains why in his article Mutiny:

Women don’t want to be reminded they’re “being included.” This panders to women. They already know they can abandon or jump ship.

I’ve said this stuff is meant to be taken seriously, not literally. This is what I mean. Rollo is right. A wife will abandon ship if things get tough. Red Pill isn’t about being right. It’s about being useful. Using this model while building frame or running dread offers tangible benefits. It doesn’t matter if it’s true. It matters if it’s useful. So long as she hasn’t tried to jump ship, it’s useful. The three types are:

1. The drunken captain and a begrudging first officer

2. The neurotic captain and his constantly complaining first officer

3. The captain and her husband

This field report covers the first type. Briefly, the second type involves men who avoid conflict. They desperately seek validation from their women. The third type involves boss babes. They need a man they can feel safe with and lord over. They’re imperfect at leading. This causes misery for everyone.

The negligent captain isn’t as interesting. These are usually men who are good at what they do. Even if he’s a man-child, a drunk, or a deadbeat, he wasn’t always that way. He was attractive once. He wasn’t unattractive. He was good at being the kind of man women lust after. His journey is straightforward. Do what you used to do. Don’t put up with your wife’s nonsense. Things tend to work out. It’s basic self-improvement stuff.

I find the praxeology superior. Most self-help trends toward being a good plow horse for your wife. We prefer a self-interested direction. The next example is one of our better members. He was attached to a mental model I’ve written about. It reads like a shopping list of activities. It’s a “build a better mousetrap” checklist. I don’t want you to take it that way.

I’m sharing this field report to show the work it takes to not be unattractive. Guys think internal work is enough to be a high-value man, whatever that means. It’s not enough. Validation-seeking, nice-guy behaviors, and feminine-primary social order stuff are covered in Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame.

These basics get you to baseline. Once you’re at baseline, a case study like this applies.

You might be a guy who sees self-help advice and wonders why it misses less obvious stuff. You know, the “just go talk to girls” advice. It never explains what to say after hello. When you read a field report and see a man doing something you think you couldn’t get away with, don’t get irritated. Realize it’s because of the foundational work from Glover, Smith, Claire, Tomassi, and me. It’s the literal tetrahedron of frame. Once you have that, your field reports or year-long case studies snap into place like a Lego set.

Pause. The Dog Walker, still the best selling work of contemporary fiction anyone in the Red Pill has ever done, and definitely better than the slop being put out today. You’ll laugh, you’ll get angry at Rex, you’ll enjoy the story on story telling alone. If you didn’t know anything about the Red Pill you’d love it because it’s Raw, crude, and engaging. And I’m still impressed by how everyone is eschewing the Kindle version and going straight to Paperback. You can leave it on your desk at work, your coffee table at home, and your woman will actually steal it from you to read it for herself.

enjoy

One Year field report Progress:

The exchange below took place last week, exactly one year to the day that I discovered Red Pill. My wife, kids, and I were hanging out at home, and she decided to take a picture of me with our two little ones.

Ms. J, after looking at the picture on her phone

“Wow, Daddy is showing a lot more teeth in pictures these days. Are you having an affair?”

“What can I say? That’s just how I am.”

Her comment reflects my continued drive to be better, a happier man, and follow my own mission.

Mission Statement