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It’s a simple field report, but an important lesson. Too many people have this need to find who is at fault or who is to blame for a relationship. It’s as if we are in this gender war and everyone’s drawing lines in the sand. Luckily the war is over, we lost, so you can stop worrying about that. Besides, blame is only useful for women and children. The report is about a man, freshly red pilled, learning that his wife is a substandard mother. Not substandard in some universal checklist of qualities, but substandard according to his checklist.
This is why an early concept for an unplugging man is Operation Scorched Earth; if your wife died tomorrow how would you live your life? Do that. Live the life you were going to live if she wasn’t there. Live to your standards and on your time line. Like the name Dread, Scorched Earth is an evocative concept for a self interested Mental Model.
Yet another beneficial bait and switch for men. When you first hear it, you think of the scene in Apocalypse now, where they napalm a village. It sounds great. You have a nagging, frigid, frumpy wife … why wouldn’t you want to napalm that and win the war?
She’s raised a monster!
I have trusted my wife with knowing how to discipline the kids. Since she's a stay at home mom, she is obviously the one who spends the most time with them.
Last night she went to coffee with a girl friend and I stayed home with the kids. And let me tell you, it was eye opening. My 18 month old daughter has already decided that if she doesn't get her way that it’s the end of the world. She puked three times on three separate occasions simply for telling her no.
“You need to get back in your chair. We eat dinner at the table, not walking around.”
Cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry ... puke.
My wife hates to see daughter that upset. She’s naturally more caring and comforting. That has led my daughter to understand that as long as she cries, mommy will give her what she wants at a year and a half old. I'm a tad bit shocked that she’s picked it up this early.
My son, on the other hand, learned “no” quickly. And people say there’s no difference between young boys and girls. Bullshit.
I'll be having a talk with wife about being firm and setting boundaries. It will get ugly, likely with lots of puke. But I need lead her through it. It will get better once our daughter learns she's not a princess and my wife learns that being the bad guy isn’t the end of the world.
On that topic. At what point do we say that it’s not feminism or our culture that ingrains girls in empowerment but just their nature to use their gender to push their weight around? I think its much more innate than we usually acknowledge. Fuck feminism though.
How do you start the final scoreboard in Dread?
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