Michael claims that he’s constantly being hit on by 30+ women, so doesn’t that solve his no sex problem?
I think his problem is that his goals are not HIS goals. They are influenced by his religious upbringing.
His goal is to get married, not to have sex(yet he’s jealous of other guys getting laid). And he’s angry because the archetype of woman he’s been brainwashed to get married to doesn’t exist in this world.
You’re right, he’s torn. On the one hand he has his natural sexual desires. On the other hand he’s trained to think they can only ever be realised within a committed relationship being the end goal; which young women at college age either aren’t open to, or if they are it’s only after the other fun stuff comes first (as pointed out above). The result, which was kinda inevitable when you think about it is bitterness when his covert contract isn’t being met, which in turn made him less attractive when younger.
Michael’s error is not realizing that whatever their claims about “husband material,” women don’t fall in love with that guy at any age. They fall in love with great sex + the other stuff, in that order.
If he wanted a woman to fall in love with him in his 20’s he was better off being the party guy with substance. His optimal strategy is the same now.
Choosing to hate women because they prefer fun to all else is another matter.
He didn’t even have to be the party guy if that wasn’t his scene. In fact trying to be the party guy when you’re not into it is falling into someone else’s frame. He should have found fun things to do within his own frame, and limited his attention and desires to women who showed some genuine interest in being a part of that. Tying into an earlier post from Rian, he should have changed the environment he tried to find women in. I think that would led to better results than try to make himself like the party scene if that wasn’t him.
But he did neither of those. Instead he continued to lust after women who were all about partying, got bitter when they didn’t reciprocate his attention on his terms, which would have made himself less attractive by signalling low value / desperation to more likely prospects.
His error was also in believing that he could find a wifely woman in college just because his father was able to with his mother 30-40 years prior. A change of environment would've done him better.
Thank you for doing the supplement to this! Just watched the video. It definitely helps, because reading his story is just frustrating but seeing you point out the flaws in his thinking is very instructive.
There's a more technological reason for this. It's the gap between sexual maturity and financial independence. His grandparents were able to live on the economy while mike is still required to have 3 more years of university and still can't buy a house
Michael claims that he’s constantly being hit on by 30+ women, so doesn’t that solve his no sex problem?
I think his problem is that his goals are not HIS goals. They are influenced by his religious upbringing.
His goal is to get married, not to have sex(yet he’s jealous of other guys getting laid). And he’s angry because the archetype of woman he’s been brainwashed to get married to doesn’t exist in this world.
He’s living in the church’s frame
You’re right, he’s torn. On the one hand he has his natural sexual desires. On the other hand he’s trained to think they can only ever be realised within a committed relationship being the end goal; which young women at college age either aren’t open to, or if they are it’s only after the other fun stuff comes first (as pointed out above). The result, which was kinda inevitable when you think about it is bitterness when his covert contract isn’t being met, which in turn made him less attractive when younger.
who wants to have sex with 30+ women
The only part that sucked is that you won’t remember all of them so you have to figure out what you want now
Michael’s error is not realizing that whatever their claims about “husband material,” women don’t fall in love with that guy at any age. They fall in love with great sex + the other stuff, in that order.
If he wanted a woman to fall in love with him in his 20’s he was better off being the party guy with substance. His optimal strategy is the same now.
Choosing to hate women because they prefer fun to all else is another matter.
He didn’t even have to be the party guy if that wasn’t his scene. In fact trying to be the party guy when you’re not into it is falling into someone else’s frame. He should have found fun things to do within his own frame, and limited his attention and desires to women who showed some genuine interest in being a part of that. Tying into an earlier post from Rian, he should have changed the environment he tried to find women in. I think that would led to better results than try to make himself like the party scene if that wasn’t him.
But he did neither of those. Instead he continued to lust after women who were all about partying, got bitter when they didn’t reciprocate his attention on his terms, which would have made himself less attractive by signalling low value / desperation to more likely prospects.
His error was also in believing that he could find a wifely woman in college just because his father was able to with his mother 30-40 years prior. A change of environment would've done him better.
i never read anything but i read michael's story voraciously. great post
Being correct this early in the morning is delicious!!! Great work (or repost), either way it's good.
A little of both.
Michael learned about the "epiphany phase" the hard, bitter and cynical way. The passport bro route is most definitely an option, so is dread game.
Thank you for doing the supplement to this! Just watched the video. It definitely helps, because reading his story is just frustrating but seeing you point out the flaws in his thinking is very instructive.
Per usual, STELLAR work, Mr. Stone.
Whoa. That's a badass moniker....Mr. Stone.
Rian Stone, Action Hero.
Uh oh, wandering off topic, sorry.
wut
There's a more technological reason for this. It's the gap between sexual maturity and financial independence. His grandparents were able to live on the economy while mike is still required to have 3 more years of university and still can't buy a house