The significant feature of these experiments was that gentle handling and painful electric shocks were equally effective in promoting the health of the animals.
This is an essay on why you cannot Red Pill your friends; not on micro resolution and not on macro resolution. In the micro you wrongly signal yourself to be an economic loser, in the macro you rightly signal yourself to be an economic loser. By openly talking the talk, using the jargon, and commenting on the latest hoe or simp you’re actually missing the entire point. It’s supposed to be an individual, obsessive personal journey towards a measure of contentment with the basics of sexual strategy and positive male identity. It’s not meant to be a social signal or status amplifier and it sucks at doing either.
I have to walk you through a few concepts first: the bell curve of male sexual strategy, the Gervais principle, why the Red Pill can only be loser talk, and finally how Transactional analysis or game talk can let you see who is who so that you can stop being a loser and avoid being clueless.
You cannot Red Pill your friends anymore than you can save a drowning man by letting him hole onto you. He will drown you both, everyone looking from the shore will think you’re an idiot and you deserve both.
You cannot Red Pill your friends, I have to start at the end.
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We are a social species that lives on a bell curve of the human condition. Some of us were always going to succeed, others will fail no matter what you do. This is a lesson for those of us in the middle who are forced to raise and fall by our ability to adapt and overcome the current world order. While we can thrive when the waters are calm and the pressures are small, we increasingly struggle and become the failed men when seas get rough. Our current world is getting rougher and the Red Pill is about those men teaching each other how to swim by documenting how we learned it ourselves.
Having said that, the only way to teach subtext is by speaking directly, which is always going to be unattractive and is the language the losers (losers in the sense that they have made bad decisions) so as a necessary evil, the clueless need to be losers for a time in order to thrive, and trying to Red Pill your friends is a fools errand.
The reason is innate to the human condition and our current environment. The internet and social media have given us amplified ability to be social, but resulted in further atomization of men and women in a social sense. We require what’s called emotional satiety (positive emotional events) or else we degrade or suffer delayed adolescence. As a survival adaptation men learn to garner negative attention to get the methadone version, while women become thots for the camera to get it from random thirsty online assholes. Men become angry anime profile pictures that harass women and women shake their tits for likes and subscribers.
In order to get out of this trap, it’s helpful to categorize your interactions based on the Gervais principle, or sociopaths having power-talk, clueless having posture-talk, and losers having game-talk. You do this so that you are able to live successfully with the sociopaths (people who navigate life successfully) avoid the clueless who bicker and posture with no benefit, and objectively understand how to thrive. Losers speaking directly about subtext is the only way to learn, but makes you look like a loser, so don’t talk about it.
Finally, the losers are organized into 3 categories, parents, children, and adults. Just because you’re surrounded by losers doesn’t mean all losers are equal.
There’s a third of them who are either proselytizing parents or absolute morons telling you how to live the good life while not doing anything close to it themselves.
Another third are children looking to get validation from you so they say what you want to hear in a covert contract so that they can get their emotional satiety, and the final third are adults who are objectively navigating life and sharing notes. While they are great to learn from, they cannot offer any form of emotional satiety and communicating with everyone else just leads to conflict.
Learn to internalize these as quick and dirty categories so that you can stop wasting your time or otherwise drowning when you don’t need to.
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