Just a little math here: By the time she returns from her 10 day business trip this couple will have had sex 3 times in 8 weeks. This meets the definition of a sexless marriage. They don’t have any kids, so she presells the reason as ‘busy schedule’ and ‘sex always drops off after marriage’; both industry standard reasons. Black Pillers love the comeuppance tact, and women love the pettiness indignation ‘you don’t owe him sex’ and ‘what a child’ mentality threads.
Nice set-up! I really enjoyed the two different responses.
What I think we fail to address/recognize in the "dead-bedroom" discource is what sex in a relationship means to a man.
No one should have sex that they do not want - needless to say - but if women truly understood what emotions sex involves for a man an a subconscious level, how important it is, I think that maybe our conversations would be better.
Men know deep down that they are totally dependant on a women to propogate their genes. When a woman in a commited relationship denies her husband sex (which she of course is entitled to), she is at the same time (implicitly) saying "I don't want to have your baby".
While "pure" sexual frustration is one factor, many men in "dead bedrooms" express feeling unwanted, undesirable, disconnected, lonely, rejected, or even replaced. If sex is one of the most important pair-bonding signals to a man, then denying or rejecting sex is the same as flat out saying "I am not invested in this relationship."
This might sound crazy to a woman, since her pair-bonding signals are different; connection through sharing of emotions etc.
Nice set-up! I really enjoyed the two different responses.
What I think we fail to address/recognize in the "dead-bedroom" discource is what sex in a relationship means to a man.
No one should have sex that they do not want - needless to say - but if women truly understood what emotions sex involves for a man an a subconscious level, how important it is, I think that maybe our conversations would be better.
Men know deep down that they are totally dependant on a women to propogate their genes. When a woman in a commited relationship denies her husband sex (which she of course is entitled to), she is at the same time (implicitly) saying "I don't want to have your baby".
While "pure" sexual frustration is one factor, many men in "dead bedrooms" express feeling unwanted, undesirable, disconnected, lonely, rejected, or even replaced. If sex is one of the most important pair-bonding signals to a man, then denying or rejecting sex is the same as flat out saying "I am not invested in this relationship."
This might sound crazy to a woman, since her pair-bonding signals are different; connection through sharing of emotions etc.
Just a little math here: By the time she returns from her 10 day business trip this couple will have had sex 3 times in 8 weeks. This meets the definition of a sexless marriage. They don’t have any kids, so she presells the reason as ‘busy schedule’ and ‘sex always drops off after marriage’; both industry standard reasons. Black Pillers love the comeuppance tact, and women love the pettiness indignation ‘you don’t owe him sex’ and ‘what a child’ mentality threads.
Nice set-up! I really enjoyed the two different responses.
What I think we fail to address/recognize in the "dead-bedroom" discource is what sex in a relationship means to a man.
No one should have sex that they do not want - needless to say - but if women truly understood what emotions sex involves for a man an a subconscious level, how important it is, I think that maybe our conversations would be better.
Men know deep down that they are totally dependant on a women to propogate their genes. When a woman in a commited relationship denies her husband sex (which she of course is entitled to), she is at the same time (implicitly) saying "I don't want to have your baby".
While "pure" sexual frustration is one factor, many men in "dead bedrooms" express feeling unwanted, undesirable, disconnected, lonely, rejected, or even replaced. If sex is one of the most important pair-bonding signals to a man, then denying or rejecting sex is the same as flat out saying "I am not invested in this relationship."
This might sound crazy to a woman, since her pair-bonding signals are different; connection through sharing of emotions etc.
Nice set-up! I really enjoyed the two different responses.
What I think we fail to address/recognize in the "dead-bedroom" discource is what sex in a relationship means to a man.
No one should have sex that they do not want - needless to say - but if women truly understood what emotions sex involves for a man an a subconscious level, how important it is, I think that maybe our conversations would be better.
Men know deep down that they are totally dependant on a women to propogate their genes. When a woman in a commited relationship denies her husband sex (which she of course is entitled to), she is at the same time (implicitly) saying "I don't want to have your baby".
While "pure" sexual frustration is one factor, many men in "dead bedrooms" express feeling unwanted, undesirable, disconnected, lonely, rejected, or even replaced. If sex is one of the most important pair-bonding signals to a man, then denying or rejecting sex is the same as flat out saying "I am not invested in this relationship."
This might sound crazy to a woman, since her pair-bonding signals are different; connection through sharing of emotions etc.