Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women

A 50 year old Playboy shares notes from his NYC Condo.

Vas 2015

As a young lad, I am sure I would have been perfectly happy with vanilla sex. As long as I got my dick wet, it was a win. But what I discovered was, even from an early age, women want me to dominate them. That has manifested itself in various ways, from a shy, teenage girl telling me

"I like it that, when I'm with you, I feel like I can't just get away," to much more explicit statements from, um, less shy women. So how does one identify such women in the wild? They don’t exactly come with signs that say

“Tie me up and bone me!” or “Spank me, Daddy!”

Here are some telltale signs:

She’s Tall

Nobody likes being topped as much at tall girls. They love it because it makes them feel feminine. And the taller a girl is, the more of a lock it is that she wants to rollover on her back for you, spread her legs, and let you have your way with her. Above 5’8 it becomes noticeable and above 5’10” it’s basically a lock (173 CM and 178 CM for you metric guys)

She’s Feminine

She has long hair because she knows it makes her look sexy, and because she knows you will want to wrap your hands in it and pull it while you bang her, doggy-style. She wears skirts and heels so you can admire her legs and think very happy, very evil thoughts about her. She wants you to be the shot caller, not only in making decisions in everyday life, but in the bedroom also. She’s the girl that the saying,

“A lady in the streets, a whore in the sheets” was made up for.

She’s Intelligent

Intelligent women are also likely to have High-Rev Hamsters. If you present as a CONFIDENT, sexually-entitled motherfucker with the SMV to back it up, she WILL drop those panties for you, and cross her wrists.

She’s Introverted

That nerd girl over there? Underneath those glasses and frumpy clothes lurks a Sex Goddess. Still waters run deep. Trust me on this one. That quiet chick on your dorm floor? If you’re walking by her room at the right moment when her b/f from home is visiting, you’re going to hear her say

“Put your finger in my ass!”

I recommend negging (Note: Negging a man gives a woman a backhanded compliment or a mild, non-hostile criticism to destabilize her confidence, make her seek his validation, and make her more receptive to his advances. The goal is to disqualify himself as a "suitor" so the interaction feels less loaded, prompting the woman to pursue his attention and approval.)

introverted girls less. Keep it to light teasing. She may be socially awkward as well, and your goal is to keep it fun, not make her feel bad about herself. The wife of a buddy of mine is painfully introverted, but I’ve known her for 20 years so she’s comfortable with me. She told me once that she loves that I will carry the convo and my jokes and stories are funny, and all

“{she has} to do is ‘receive’,” to which I replied “Just like God intended.”

So light humor that emphasized traditional male/female relations, she’s a buddy’s wife, so I’m not trying to bang her, but the reinforcement of traditional roles makes her feel more comfortable, as she is also Feminine (see above).

Finding introverts in the wild can be tough, as their preferred environment is an ecosystem called "Home" where they curl up with a book, play with their cat, etc. When you see a group of girls on a GNO, look for the one on the edge of the action, maybe a bit uncomfortable with her friends drinking. If it's a bachelorette party, she will be the one NOT wearing any of that cheesy bachelorette crap. She doesn't want to be there, but she wants a boyfriend, like her friends have. And she will be happy to lock a guy down, so she doesn't have to go out and meet guys anymore. My 19 year old friend with benefits? Introvert. Met me, liked me, didn't care that I was older, just liked that I am good at "life" and that now she's finally getting hit right. She's happy if we just hang out at my place or, on those occasions when I travel and bring her with me, staying at the hotel and posing and modeling in nothing but thigh highs, Because Daddy Likes.

She’s Feminist

I used to date a feminist professor (egad, I know, but bear with me on this). She happened to decide to leave her usual watering hole and wander over the road to mine. She found me having dinner and sidled up. We got to talking and drinking and I destroyed every bullshit feminist argument she made. That sent the Pussy Tingle Generator^TM revving into the red zone. Why?

Because feminism is a Gigantic Shit Test.¹ How much of their crap are we going to take, and, regrettably for them (and happily for RP Men) society is going Full Beta. Ever see a male feminist? They’re either doughy guys with man boobs well into a program of food-assisted suicide, or they are sallow-eyed, chicken-chested guys with no looks and no game who hope they are going to simp their way into some pussy. And they are thirsty as fuck.

Now for some practical tips:

Practical Tip #1: When the time is right, which is any time from "heavy flirting" to "hopping in the sack", ask a woman what her fantasy is. You're going to get two recurrent themes: "I wanna have sex with another girl," and "Tie me up!"

It was for that second one, evidently, that I learned all those knots in Boy Scouts. Note: If, like me, you like tying girls up, you need to learn to do it right, so there is no danger of loss of circulation, etc., and also establish limits and shit so you don't wind up with legal problems; all of this is beyond the scope of this post.

Practical Tip #2: She’s going to respond to kino more. A hand on her back while your standing and chatting, a hand on her upper arm, guiding her when you’re walking somewhere she might slip (on stairs, on wet or icy pavement), especially in heels.

Practical Tip #3: She is going to shit test the fuck out of you. Why? Because she’s going to be giving up basically all of her power, once the panties come off. That has to be scary as fuck for a woman. So she has to make SURE that you are worthy of her submission. So your job must be to….

Practical Tip #4: Maintain frame. Unruffled, unperturbed, solid as steel. One girl I am plating, back before I converted her from a prospect to a plate, responded to some teasing by me by exclaiming (but not as a serious threat), “I’m going to kick you in the balls!” How to reply? This is how it went:

Me: “While I’m pleased that you are thinking about my balls, you will not harm them. You will admire them, caress them, gently, cup them, lick them and kiss them. You will take them into your mouth and suck them. You will treat them lovingly, in all ways. Because your future is inside them.”²

Her: “You know you have a way of taking something I should find disgusting and making it sound really appealing!”

Practical Tip #5: Introduce the idea of her submission to you into the conversation—I do this anyway, because, as a late 40s guy who dates/mates/plates young women, I have to sexualize the convo early, blind them with ‘shiny objects’ as it were. I tell girls I am going to blindfold them and tie them up the first time we have sex. I tell them I will caress them to near madness, until they are moving their hips in frantic little circles and thrusting up towards me, until they are BEGGING for release. And then, when I decide it, I will climax them until they BEG to be permitted to stop, or they pass out. I may also often add that once they are recovering, I will lean down close to their ears and whisper, “And now I will TAKE what is MINE!” and then take my pleasure with them.

Now, what actually happens is dependent very much on what the individual woman is capable of (75%) and that the man knows what the fuck (literally) he’s doing (25%), but submissive girls find this scenario incredibly erotic. It absolves them of any responsibility. They’re tied up. They can be completely free with their sexuality, and let their libidos run amok. Anything that happens isn’t ‘their fault’. Is she screaming at you to jackhammer her through the mattress? Not her fault. You had her tied up, you brute, you.

Practical Tip #6: Set the right tone. This can be light flirting—after I set the time and coordinates of a first meeting (or second if I neglected it the first time), I will add “Wear some pretty underwear for me.” That invariably gets a giggle. I had some dates with a 6’ model type. When the clothes came off, she was wearing some lacey thong confection for my viewing pleasure.

Not only does she have the TALL indicator in spades, she was also feminine, not only in style but in behavior. She was demure and followed my lead, and starting from our first date, if she wanted another drink (as an example) she would ask my permission. This is a Good Sign.

Once a sexual relationship has been established, you can take it farther. Remember the feminist professor chick? I would sometimes be called upon to attend faculty functions with her as her “CISGender White Penis-Carrier Companion Person”, or whatever shit is in vogue with the PC liberal fucktard crowd.

Of course, I would keep my Neanderthal opinions to myself; not fair to fuck with someone where they work, etc. But before we would leave the house, she would present herself for my inspection. So I would eyeball her and then say, “Panties” and she would remove her panties, and I would put them in my pocket and I would walk around the faculty mixer thing with her panties in my pocket.³ It was a (not very) subtle remind to her Who Was Boss.

Incidentally, she did not, of course, believe most of the shit she had to babble at work. I never called her out on it in public, but at home, once we crossed the threshold to the bedroom and she morphed into a submissive little sex kitten for me, I would tell her what a little fraud she was, and what would her leftoid co-workers think if they saw me railing her out and her loving it.

Conclusions

1. Submissive girls are fun.

2. Properly handled, they will be highly ornamental and a tremendous aid in relaxation.

3. If you watch for the signs and maintain frame through the snowstorm of shit tests, the rewards can be great. Read the body of this post for helpful tips.