When they tell you there's a problem, they are probably right
When they tell you how to fix it, they are probably wrong.
Who did this wisdom come from? Bill Hader, of all people. He was talking about scriptwriting for his series on HBO, but it really applies to everywhere.
I’m like you. I’m tired, boss. Thousands of chucklefucks (kudos to Nick August on teaching me GenX neologisms) have a plan: save America with one simple trick. Save the downtrodden poor from the people who have a net worth one dollar above mine. Fix the dating pool if only everyone would X.
Sidenote: If your plan to make everything work is to have everyone do something they aren’t already doing, you don’t have a plan, you have a wish. No one will just do X, there is the problem with everything, everywhere, at all times.
In this case, it applies to sex, to relationships, to marriage, to divorce, to getting back on the horse and spinning some plates (a Red Pilled neologism to equate dating multiple girls at the same time to plat spinning spectacles at the circus) and becoming more assertive and becoming less of a nice guy (in the Dr. Glover sense of the word) and everything else that this space has talked about over the decades.
When they tell you there’s a problem, they are probably right. When they tell you how to fix it, they are probably wrong.
For sex, you need to worry about getting ghosted, or dumped, or put on blast on social media, or accused of metoo; or currently having a job that your date wants for herself. Guys in the Red Pill space, in the Traditional Conservative space, in the Liberal or Progressive spaces, in the Video Game men going their own way spaces, and every other space have been talking about the issues surrounding getting laid in the modern era.
And every chucklefuck out there has a plan to fix this. the Trads suggest making men propose celibacy until marriage. The Progressives demand men start becoming better allies. Amrou Fudl, also known as the black guy who yells at women professionally swears that you need the newest iPhone. The sexless and frustrated among us suggest that some new technology will magically make women act right.
“VHS porn will make women act better. I mean DVD, I mean internet. I mean sex bots, I mean AI. I mean male birth control. I mean female dick pills.“
The problem is right. There is a gap between the incentive to date and the benefits of dating. Women are masculine as ever. Men are feminine as ever. There are so many electronic barriers between dicks and vaginas that ecosystems have coalesced around the pain with their paid solutions. Internet niches have developed, grown, peaked, and are now in our ridiculous clown phase of internet niches.
The solutions are wrong. There is no technology that will make women like a man they don’t want to like, period. There is no path for men to give up free cheap and non committal sex, period. Women don’t give a shit about your phone, they just say they do because calling you an ‘autistic retard who gives her the creeps’ is a little too risky for a woman who can’t throw hands. And feminist allies is a code word for sexual castration. The only men who do well as a feminist ally are sneaky, grimy little men, and men who were so attractive that they can afford to signal ally status and still get whoever they want.
When they tell you there’s a problem, they are probably right. When they tell you how to fix it, they are probably wrong.
Marriage rates are in the dumpster. Even the good news is bad news. 50% of marriages used to fail, and once the first one failed a guy was guaranteed to fail in his next three. It’s closer to a third now, which sounds better, but that’s only because most people don’t even bother to try. Black America has some of the most stable relationships out there, and none of them have married, at all; except the Asians, they stick together no matter what. Probably a communism thing.
That’s right, even self selecting for the people who want and are most likely to maintain a marriage, it’s Three Card Monty. People see a problem. It’s like cigarettes and cancer. Everyone has either had lung cancer, or had a member of their family who had it. Everyone has a divorced parent, or a best friends parent.
And of course the Trads come trotting out with their at-fault divorce plans. Making it illegal to split up will solve everything. Except it won’t. During the olden days people would have an Irish divorce, or they would go out for cigarettes and never come back. It was so widespread that they were making sitcoms and movies about the premise of an Irish divorcee who found the man of her dreams and had to track down her husband to ask for a divorce.
The progressives? I don’t even know what they prescribe. They keep bringing up colonialism and patriarchy. As far as I can tell their suggestion is to get married, take the wife’s name, and offer her everything she wants in the divorce. It’s the Emasculation Paradox. Their solution makes things worse
And of course the MGTOWs, or men going their own way suggest going Galt. Giving up, never getting into a relationship. Some sort of consumer boycott against pussy that will get the women to act right. Again, this doesn’t work. Men have libidos exponentially higher than women, and playing chicken with genitals’ is a game we cannot win. Women just become lesbians is they get bored and men will cheat in the cartel at the slightest whiff of a chance.
Don’t believe me? Check out the science and rejoice. Women may not fuck as compulsively as men, but they are more than happy to play for whatever team is on the field.
Amrou Fudl, Sudanese man who is currently taking a crash course on American Ghetto life, suggests having a harem of bitches (his words.) Of course that’s not really a solution either. Guys are having problems sticking it out with one woman, and adding more women to the mix doesn’t do anything but add more nagging to your daily routine. But calling your sexually frustrated customers a temporarily disenfranchised warlord sells more merch than suggesting something useful.
When they tell you there’s a problem, they are probably right. When they tell you how to fix it, they are probably wrong.
And with divorce and dating afterwards? No one talks about this. Not because it’s not a problem, but because the court proceedings are a known thing. The laws are written down and success can be tracked. No one has a plan when their plan can be disproven. It’s always some vague ‘Fitter. Happier. More Productive” platitude sales pitch.
Amrou fudl telling 45 year old divorced men with two kids half the time to buy an iPhone and set up a harem ain’t a solution. He’s got shit to do, a career to work, and kids that require enough of his time that he doesn’t have the spare time to piss around. Trads telling men to continue being a servant leader in this cult of the child worldview isn’t a solution either.
“You know that trade, where you give your woman fidelity and enough money to live comfortably, in return for children and regular sex? Well it’s like that, except no more sex, you still have to pay, you take a hit to your lifestyle? Oh don’t worry, we have many single moms in need of redemption in the pews and you can wife one of those up to double your load!” No wonder men aren’t in the church anymore.
The MGTOW’s have their solution and they are sticking to it. Just have to wait for a new pornography technical advancement and enough men to be gone and women will act right. This time, for sure.
And the allies, I’m pretty sure just want men to do the same thing as the TRAD’s, except gayer or something.
When they tell you there’s a problem, they are probably right. When they tell you how to fix it, they are probably wrong.
And because the internet is real, the arguments the internet has, have become real. And with the internet, there is one rule about arguments, two archetypes that will manifest in every argument about anything all the time:
One side will catastrophize the issue while the other side will deny the issue exists.
Politics, sex, Pokemon, everything. Trump is the Hitler or our time? Meet, Trump hasn’t done anything. The Sexual marketplace is fucked? Meet the only men having problems are incels and no one cares. Logan Paul’s Pokemon card is a PSA 10 and sold for millions? Meet it’s Pokemon and I don’t care.
The point is that no one knows what they are doing, no one has a solution, and everyone can easily point out the problem. There’s two takeaways for this. Disregard anyone ignoring the problem and ignore anyone offering a prescriptive solution. It’s the reason I gravitated towards the Red Pill. It never offered a solution. It wasn’t even a thing. It’s about as coherent a thing as a warehouse full of Knick Knacks is a store. A convenient place for people with moderately similar aims to work on things in public view. Men swapping notes.
