OMS, a friend of mine wrote an article.
Give it a read, it’s not bad. I’m sprinkling on my senior millennial GWOT onto it. He says that most people don’t have their shit together, and using their front facing persona as a judge for their togetherness is not helpful. In fact, it’s a solid strategy to assume they are equally as messed up as you are, so why get bent up?
And he’s not wrong. Most people are borderline retarded. Women live like slobs, men can’t feed themselves, the best director you know hates his kids and his wife hates saving for retirement. the hottest chick you’ve ever met lost a tampon in her vagina last month because she got drunk during shark week and now has toxemia, which she assumes is a gluten intolerance.
I don’t think that’s good enough. Antipathy is so much better. Outside of what your boss or your Hinge date or your bitch ass soon to be ex wife are doing for you, to you, or against you, does it really matter how together or un-together they are? Why so worried about strangers? Is there a competition? Some Diablo 2 leaderboard where you can compare staff length to every other player on the NA servers?
Probably not. Now I’m not a fan of autism. I don’t like the blanket disorder that covers everything from nervous, to shy, to Asperger to socially retarded (clinical sense). I don’t like how it made fidget spinners a thing, and I definitely don’t like how women saw how many men were autistic and decided to get in on it too, because, gamer girls or something.
You know that old joke, where a woman knows someone for a day and she knows their birthday, kids names, and blood type? While a man has had a lifelong friend for 15 years, and have taken bullets for each other, but he doesn’t know the guys wife’s name? Consider that this life skill might be important.
Sure, you won’t be the best whoiffe in the world, sending boo-baskets on their anniversary or anything. But you got game, right? you can sleep with a girl and have her want to be in her life. Know one advantage of keeping her around after you nut? She’s great at all this little social convention stuff.
Besides, if anyone is asking, you got your shit together. It’s none of their business whether you have holes in your underwear, you spent 10k last month on sports gambling sites, and threaten to leave your wife if she eats more than 1500 kcal in a day.
I see this as the step that follows what I mentioned in my post (once you have frame) - until then, using the comparison to others to get off your ass may be helpful.
The things that get someone there are not always the same as those he has to do to keep himself there.
Great writing as always Rian