An asshole with the memory of a goldfish

Or why women experience shame when aroused in the worst way

This is a two part case study. For the first half, I go over the 5 stages of unplugging, and how the men who red pill as a brand aren’t any better at it than you. Some are here to get internet fame while destroying their lives, and others are here to learn, to teach, to narrate and to succeed. If you can compartmentalize their work with the stages of unplugging you are better able to see if their work is of any use to you, or whether it’s the work of a demagogue in training, trying to recruit sycophants.

What’s in this for you?

The second part is a small example in being an asshole with the memory of a goldfish. It turns out we can be our own worst enemies, especially in the way we assume attraction and arousal are the same thing when in reality they are barely connected.

Also, I use sexual assault to make a point, which is exactly what Roosh V did to get banned from the UK. But it’s different when I do it because I’m not stoking anger for likes.

Or am I?

I

This next bit is going to read like some infighting among brands, sour grapes and shit posting. This isn’t that kind of case study.

Anything you’ve read or heard in regards to the red pill cannot work by itself. You require an anchoring to the outside world to contextualize all the mental models and strategies. I know it sounds obvious, but without being tested by reality, you end up living like Roosh V, who is now banned from entering the UK because he wrote a satirical piece on rape knowing that it would be taken and used against him. You’ll end up living like Anthony Johnson, who titled himself ‘president of the manosphere’ and proceeded to nuke is business and financial future because he thought of himself as the second coming.

If you don’t know who these people are, that’s not a bad thing. I have the unfortunate gift of a long memory and love of this space. I remember Daniel (aka GLO) who expatriated to south America and started a cargo cult based on selling t shirts and the devaluation of the peso. I remember Robert Fisher who wanted so hard to say the right things and write the best and most outrageous material that when the reporters at the Daily Beast got a hold of him they tarred and feathered him until it ended his political career.

For every Rollo Tomassi there are a hundred nameless, faceless guys who have ruined their lives because they became internet evangelists and forgot Rule Zero, the whole purpose this place exists: male sexual strategy and positive male identity. Anything else is irrelevant.

This is why every time I see Paul Elam flipping back and forth between his praise of the red pill and his mockery of it I send him a goatse (don‘t ask) and tell him to fuck off. Paul, the men’s rights advocacy version of Judas mixed with Ned Flanders, is like so many men. They don’t want to help men, and surely not learn from others. They want to be famous and don’t have the looks or talent or opportunity to make it in a mainstream arena, so they find themselves in the wal mart bin of internet celebrity and proceed to become the lolcows of the internet.

So what kind of case study is this? It’s a case study in learning to separate the wheat from the chaff, the branding from the information, the metal model models from the sycophant recruitment ads. It’s a case study on learning to tell the difference between poison and medicine. They taste similarity bitter, they cause similar pain when you first take them, but one makes you fit while the other makes you dead, or worse.

A Lolcow, or someone who embarrasses themselves like a clown and lacks the self awareness to know he’s a clown.

II

When men are writing their field reports, case studies or essays on Rule Zero, they categorize into the phases men take in their lives when they are learning:

Denial — Anything that serves to raise awareness or illustrate the problem even existing. This is the lease useful and most likely to be poison. Red Pilled men only discover this place because what they have isn’t working. If a guy is able to survive and thrive in this current year, why does he care that other people can’t figure it out? However, sad sack tales of men getting ground into dust makes for a great sympathy piece for rubberneckers can get their fill of rescuing stray cats on the side of the road without the annoying smell of cat piss in their house.

Red Pill is never going to be attractive enough to proselytize, not can it be. I’ve written about it before. The language in these spaces serves to use direct communication to describe sub-textual communication and expose plausible deniability. It’s the articulation of a petulant teenager for men who either did not learn, or had to relearn sophisticated human interactions in a world that no longer serves mens direct style of speaking. In other words, it’s a translation guide for womaneese. It also pulls no punches on the bad behavior of men (which no one cares about) and the bad behavior of women (which people will fight tooth and nail to pretend it doesn’t exist) so there is no world where this will ever be a topic on a night time talk show with nodding head audience members agreeing with what we all can see with our own eyes.

We prefer pretty lies.

Anger — When you read something from this space, ask yourself: what is the author trying to accomplish? When you read something like the Sexodus, which if I remember used to be part of the sidebar for a time, seems clear.

Men created most of what is good about the world. The excesses of masculinity are also, to be sure, responsible for much of what is bad. But if we are to avoid sliding into decline, mediocrity and a world in which men are actively discriminated against, we must arrest the decline in social attitudes towards them before so many victims are claimed that all hope of reconciliation between the sexes is lost. If that happens, it will be women who will suffer.

It’s meant to make you angry. More accurately, it’s meant to reinforce your already existing, but unfocused anger into specific grievances. Of course, what benefit is there to keeping someone angry and giving them a boogeyman, other than to make them hooked on your drip fed dopamine? I’ve written about anger myself, and there’s a difference between the two messages:

“If an average girl works hard enough, she will be able to have a one-night stand with a ‘hot’ guy every now and then because he happened to be horny and wanted an easy lay. The girl then thinks that she actually can get such a man to commit to her for the long term, and so doesn’t give the average guys a chance, holding out for the type of stud that she had a brief sexual encounter with in the past.”

Vs

What does any of this have to do with anger? Anger is no longer an emotional response to both pain and social attack, it’s not a tool like any other tool. The only difference is you have the frame to handle it.

The former tells you that you are mad, you’re right to be mad, and it’s the average girls fault. She is fucking with you. The latter tells you how you get angry, what causes it, and points to a way to process it for personal success.

This isn’t to say there’s no value in rabble rousing. For the newly unplugged guy, there’s benefit in knowing you’re not alone, that other people are angry too, that you’re not crazy for noticing, and it feels good. However, if you see the same guy posting the same rage bait for years without pause, then you know that you’re being emotionally mined for engagement.

Bargaining — If you want to fuck women, whether they be wife, whore or stranger, you have to perform. The burden of performance is real. You trade validation and status for sex, the barter as old as humans. There is a lot of guides and field reports on how to game and fuck. They are all a type of roadmap to this simple trade. While the Red Pill proper talks more about the concept of Frame, where this barter is a long tail benefit and not the prime reason for what we do, the effect is the same as Mystery teaching you to neg. This, funnily enough, tends to be where the best material is because it’s an if … then; if you want X then do Y and it’ll be more likely.

Depression — The beauty of this is most people don’t write from this phase. This is where guys check the fuck out. In the same way you can tell if a girl on Twitter is in a relationship or not by whether she is tweeting or has deleted her account, guys are depressed about their outlook when they stop making content.

Acceptance — When you read Manosphere by Ian Ironwood. Male Action Plan by Athol Kay, Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi, or Dread by me is acceptance. It’s the most fulfilling type of work to do, but it sucks for branding experts. You have to know what you’re doing, you have to know what you’re talking about. You have to have read up on the work of others, you have to experience as much as you can in your own life. You can’t cobble together buzz words from a few people and hope for the best.

You also can’t recruit for it. It’s easy to get more angry people. Post bait and wait for them to seethe. Better yet, piss off their boogey man. You’d be surprised how little Frame men have, when all they need to be convinced to do something is an example of feminists telling them not to. Jim Jones could tell these guys that feminists hate Kool Aid and Jonestown 2.0 would happen the next day.

Now that I’ve said all that, I’m going to talk about a field report and what it can do for you